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==Imposing 3D Lifestyle Narrative==

In the western world we are told a popular life style narrative from our families, educational centers, and social structures that in order to be a happy and successful person, we must follow a specific [[3D]] program. If we do not follow that program given to us as the narrative of control, this threatens the people reinforcing that program. If we determine our happiness is to listen to our own inner guidance, and we act upon it, people in the program will tell you that you cannot possibly be successful and happy. Instead, they may project upon you to be a social reject, or use terms that are used to degrade your self-esteem to make you doubt your decisions. The most important piece to pay attention to with Gaslighting is to get clarity of your own feelings, experiences and perceptions, and to never give power to any other person to interpret your experience or degrade what is meaningful to your heart. Gaslighters will tell you how to feel and when to feel, and that your heart based feelings and direct experiences do not matter. Never listen to these damaged people, and take warning from any person that seeks to control what you feel or do not feel, as determined by your own circumstances.

==How to Identify and Counter in the Workplace==

* Document Everything: Keep a journal, save emails, and record, or take notes immediately after meetings to verify facts.

* Seek Validation: Check with trusted colleagues to get an objective viewpoint.

* Set Boundaries: State your reality firmly (e.g., "I know this is what we agreed upon") and disengage from arguments that twist the truth.<ref>[https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/domestic-abuse/gaslighting helpguide]</ref>

==Your Reality is not Up for Debate==

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 ==Imposing 3D Lifestyle Narrative==
 In the western world we are told a popular life style narrative from our families, educational centers, and social structures that in order to be a happy and successful person, we must follow a specific [[3D]] program. If we do not follow that program given to us as the narrative of control, this threatens the people reinforcing that program. If we determine our happiness is to listen to our own inner guidance, and we act upon it, people in the program will tell you that you cannot possibly be successful and happy. Instead, they may project upon you to be a social reject, or use terms that are used to degrade your self-esteem to make you doubt your decisions. The most important piece to pay attention to with Gaslighting is to get clarity of your own feelings, experiences and perceptions, and to never give power to any other person to interpret your experience or degrade what is meaningful to your heart. Gaslighters will tell you how to feel and when to feel, and that your heart based feelings and direct experiences do not matter. Never listen to these damaged people, and take warning from any person that seeks to control what you feel or do not feel, as determined by your own circumstances.
+==How to Identify and Counter in the Workplace==
+* Document Everything: Keep a journal, save emails, and record, or take notes immediately after meetings to verify facts.
+* Seek Validation: Check with trusted colleagues to get an objective viewpoint.
+* Set Boundaries: State your reality firmly (e.g., "I know this is what we agreed upon") and disengage from arguments that twist the truth.<ref>[https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/domestic-abuse/gaslighting helpguide]</ref>
 ==Your Reality is not Up for Debate==