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From Pema Chodron: [[Idiot Compassion]] is a great expression, which was actually coined by Trungpa Rinpoche. It refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion. In some ways, it’s what's called enabling. It’s the general tendency to give people what they want because you can’t bear to see them suffering.

''From Pema Chodron:'' [[Idiot Compassion]] is a great expression, which was actually coined by Trungpa Rinpoche. It refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion. In some ways, it’s what's called enabling. It’s the general tendency to give people what they want because you can’t bear to see them suffering.

Basically, you’re not giving them what they need. You’re trying to get away from your feeling of I can’t bear to see them suffering. I also note that many times the person is lying to you to get what they want, so one has to navigate the realization that the person is so confused, that they cannot actually communicate honestly or know what it is that would actually be positive for them. How can a person be honest if they are lying to themselves to avoid fear and pain?

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-From Pema Chodron: [[Idiot Compassion]] is a great expression, which was actually coined by Trungpa Rinpoche. It refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion. In some ways, it’s what's called enabling. It’s the general tendency to give people what they want because you can’t bear to see them suffering.
+''From Pema Chodron:'' [[Idiot Compassion]] is a great expression, which was actually coined by Trungpa Rinpoche. It refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion. In some ways, it’s what's called enabling. It’s the general tendency to give people what they want because you can’t bear to see them suffering.
 Basically, you’re not giving them what they need. You’re trying to get away from your feeling of I can’t bear to see them suffering. I also note that many times the person is lying to you to get what they want, so one has to navigate the realization that the person is so confused, that they cannot actually communicate honestly or know what it is that would actually be positive for them. How can a person be honest if they are lying to themselves to avoid fear and pain?